In the 21st century, where information is available at our fingertips, technology has advanced more than ever before. More and more things are available for entertainment. We want results fast than ever before and this is where we fall in the trap of instant gratification in our lives.
We have reached the very depth of the ocean and to the moon. Medical science is able to make impossible things possible. When everything is easy and available, then why it is that we are still looking for happiness in our lives. Actually, the answer lies in this advancement.
What is happiness?
Let me first explain how human feel happiness. Happiness is nothing but a release of certain chemicals such as dopamine and endorphin in our mind. Dopamine particularly is a chemical release in our mind whenever we are excited about any incident.
There are a thousand of things like watching a movie, listening to music, playing video games and so much more which can activate the release of dopamine in our mind. The amount of dopamine released decides the level of happiness one feels at any particular time.
Now that you understand the phenomenon, I want to explain how the same advancement makes our life boring. With the increasing technology, what we have also achieved is instant gratification or instant pleasure which we receive from digital entertainment.
There is nothing real in movies, videos, youtube or games. Internet porn has turned in to extremely violent behaviour against women. Song has gone from “hello is it me you’re looking for” by Lionel Richie to “I wanna f**k you” by Akon.
All of these elements help your mind to release more dopamine which makes you feel happier, but there is a very big side effect of that. Once your body becomes habitual of instant pleasure, the real world seems boring to you.
Important tasks such as cleaning the home, tiding up the desk or walking to stores seem like a big challenge. We cannot sit ideal for 10 min alone. For exercising or driving we need loud music. It is all because we got addicted to the high dose of dopamine. The thing which serves us become our enemy.
We are what we repeatedly do. Repetition becomes habits within no time. Have you noticed clicking on your mobile phone or checking your social media feeds even though there is no message notification? It is because of a habit of instant gratification. But the good news is that the same repetition can save us from this boredom. We can create a habit of being happy. So what do we do?
Here is the list of items, you need to remove from your life or at least cut them down significantly. It will take away your mind from a mindset of instant gratification so you can think of success from a long-term perspective.
It includes all the digital form such as TV, action movies & series, video games, porn, youtube, Mobile and social media. Excessive use of any of these will bring unhappiness in life.
It is normal that we all need some entertainment once we come home from the long day at the office, but you can choose to read a book, play the guitar, go for a walk, hit the gym, or just spend time with your family. As we have discussed, you will find pleasure in this activity over time.
To start anything new is hard, but with time it becomes a habit. Keep the focus on the outcome of these activities. You will have greater health, save more money, have less sugar, learn a new skill, or have a better relationship with your family. This outcome will keep you motivated.
Here is an important part. Even educational or motivational videos must be limited by time. You must rely on action instead of just going through TED videos one by one. Be a doer, not a thinker.
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