According to a survey, only 1 out of 10 women is happy with her look in the UK. It simply means they struggle with self-acceptance. When I heard this over the radio, yesterday, I was shocked. It means only 10% per cent of the total population of women in the UK.
Now, it might be true that these figures are incorrect because the survey is made on a small number of population, but if it is anywhere close to it, then it is a serious concern in my opinion.
This is for all the beautiful women in the world who just need to realise that they all are beautiful because they are and there is no need for anybody’s approval because what you need is self-acceptance.
Self-acceptance is the issue which is common among women. I have read countless articles and stories about women who have dealt with.
Thanks to the brave ladies who shared their stories with the world openly and gave hope to the rest of the other women in the world.
To be honest with you, I can never understand what it feels like to go through as a woman because I am a man, but I know that I can provide some help and that is why I decided to write about it.
What is self-acceptance?
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Self-acceptance is simply that state of your being in which you do not judge yourself, you love yourself for being who you are, you do not care how others judge you, and you believe you are beautiful.
It is that whisper which speaks in your ears when you are alone and tells you that you hold the womb of the universe which gives birth to the very best of this world.
It is also that voices in your head that tells you that you are enough, you are lovable, you are complete, you are full of life, you can give love and you can receive love.
When you were a little baby, you were full of it. It is somewhere on your journey to adulthood that you were taught what is beautiful, what is perfect, what is a comparison and how you are not any of them.
To make the matter worst, you start believing it and you compare yourself with all faces on magazines and social media which eat every little piece of self-acceptance left inside you.
17% of women, who suffer from a lack of self-acceptance, decide to end their lives in America. Is that even real? Hell, yeah. Lack of self-acceptance also leads to other issues such as low self-esteem, and low self-confidence.
How do you learn to accept yourself?
What I am about to tell you might be very difficult for some of you but trust me on this if you do exactly what I am telling you to do, it can change your life.
You must understand that you came to this point because you have followed your reasoning mind till now and now that you are seeking for the life we all were born to live then you need to take some strong decisions in order to do so.
I have been studying the self-development for more than four years now so I am confident that this advice will help you to find the self-acceptance.
Here are the 5 ways to learn self-acceptance.
1. Make friends with only positive people.
It is the best thing you can ever do to help yourself. You have to prepare the right environment when you want to plant a new seed. Prepare that environment so that your seed can grow.
I cannot emphasize enough how important it is when it comes to self-acceptance or growth for that matter.
You must surround yourself with the people who give you confidence, who tell you that you are beautiful, who accept you as you are, and who focus on your strengths and not on your weaknesses.
If you have anyone in your life whose presence brings you negativity, then you must move forward and leave this person behind. It does not matter whether that person is your friend or family.
If you firmly believe that you can change that person and you both can contribute to each other development, then, by all means, please do so but decide how much time you will give it to see if it works out well.
If not, you must move forward. Unfortunately, it is the only way.
2. Be conscious of your words while talking to yourself.
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The words you choose for yourself when you talk to yourself manifest your future-self. Do you tell yourself that I am an idiot, stupid, nervous, not enough, not confident?
If you do, then that is what you are. Your words are your wand.
Some scientists believe that our subconscious mind runs more than 90% of our life. It is the place where your habits are stored. That is why you do not have to think when you drive or brush your teeth because it is your habit now.
And, our subconscious mind does not have the ability to reject. It accepts every thought we think as it is without knowing whether it is true or not.
The way to program your subconscious mind is to feed it with emotional repetitive thoughts. That is how a baby learns everything.
Imagine that you did something wrong and your response after doing it is that I am a stupid person. Do you know how powerful emotions you have in this specific situation?
If you do it a few times, your subconscious mind accepts this message as it is and guess what you behave stupidly.
Be very careful for at least 60 days (It takes almost 60 days for any action to become our habit) from now on while choosing words when you talk to yourself.
3. Use powerful affirmations two times a day.
Affirmation is also self-talk, but it is a proactive effect. It is something you do consciously to train your subconscious mind.
Nowadays, some famous psychologists suggest this technique to their patients. If affirmations are done correctly, it can be a powerful tool.
There is a lot of false information spread on the internet about the affirmation and every other person claims to be an expert on it. There is a right technique to do the affirmations.
As I told you earlier, our subconscious mind is affected by emotional repetitive thoughts. Affirmation can serve you the repetition, but it is emotion part most people miss while practicing it.
To practice the affirmation, you must first enter into an emotional state when your subconscious mind is receptive. Gratefulness is one of the best states when our mind is ready.
To enter into the grateful state, you should calm your body and remember any moment in your life which you are very grateful for. Once you are full of this emotion, state your affirmation few times.
Your affirmations should be in the present tense and it should be something your logical mind can believe. Look into the mirror and say your affirmations again and again.
I am powerful. I am beautiful. I am healthy. I am full of self-love. I am full of confidence. I am unstoppable. I am loved. The universe takes care of me. I can deal with any situation. Life is beautiful. Life is amazing.
Your first things in the morning and the last thing in the evening are doing affirmation. Make it your religion. Believe me, this practice alone can change your life.
4. Do something daily that you do not want to do.
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You do not want to wake up early, then wake up early. You do not want to go to the gym, then go to the gym. You do not want to eat healthy food for dinner, then eat healthy food. You do not want to read a self-help book, then read a self-help book.
Whatever it is that makes you uncomfortable, you must act on it now. Your confidence, your self-esteem, and your self-respect are accessible outside of your comfort zone. If you want to access it, you must go outside there.
The more you will do, the more you can do. It is like a muscle. It gets stronger when you work on it daily.
Choose something which makes you uncomfortable and decides to do it anyway. Just start. Do not think about the result. Start small and slowly you will find yourself doing the impossible.
5. Love yourself like you are the one who you are looking for.
This statement transforms my life in every way. Love yourself like you are the one who you are looking for.
When I used to hear that I must love myself, I never had a clue how to love myself. I do not know how to love myself. Infect we were never told us by our family members. All we hear is in fact opposite of this.
Now I know how to do it and let me teach you this powerful meditation you can do for your whole life. You will be free. All you will have is love to give in abundance.
I believe you have someone in your life whom you love unconditionally. If not, then you have an image of that person in your mind.
What most people do is that they put that person ahead of themselves. They love that person more than they love themselves. That way you empty your pot of love.
You cannot give something you do not have. You must learn to love yourself first. Then only, it is possible for you to love somebody fully and completely.
From today for the rest of your life, do this meditation daily. Find a quiet place in your home or in a garden or park. Sit down quietly and just breathe. Focus your mind completely on your breathing.
Now, imagine that you are leaving your body. You left this body and you are looking at your body from outside. You see that person who needs all this self-acceptance and love.
This person is the same person you are looking for all these years. You will notice that love fill your heart. Love is flowing from your heart for this person you are looking at because it is who you are always looking for.
Open your eyes and you will experience something extraordinary and empower. It is self-love.
Practice self-love in your every act. While taking shower, treat your body with love. While having food, feel every bit of it. Eat slowly.
When you make a mistake, forgive yourself. Accept that mistake happens. Pay attention to your feeling. When your body wants to rest, give it rest. Live consciously. This practice can change the experience of your life.
You will find peace and happiness within you. Your life will become a vehicle to take you to the ecstasy. You will feel life. And, you will accept yourself as you are because you are beautiful and enough as you are.
I truly believe that these 5 ways can transform your life as it transformed mine. It is my wish that you will share this with as many women as possible so that it can help others in the same way as it has helped you.
To your loving self.