How to cope with the stress of becoming successful?

Stress of being successful
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There are thousand things I got to do. I need to learn this or that skill. I need to work on networking and social media. I need to be more discipline.

When am I going to make it?

Do you have these little voices in your head? I bet, it does.

I have noticed that the people who are working on self-development or personal development struggle with it more.

You read one book in which writer emphasize that you need to work your butt off to be successful or you go a seminar in which speaker says that the only way to be successful is to do hard work. They all give you this list of thousand things you must do if you want to be successful.

Let me tell you that all this is rubbish. What you are getting out of it is stress which hold you back even more from becoming successful.

I have never understood how is it possible that a person can follow a recipe recommendation for 60 days to lose some weight and yet these books are best sellers.  

Have you ever tried it? You are motivated to drop few pounds off and you buy this best seller book which tells you what and when to eat and what and when to exercise.

It might be a good option for a Hollywood star or a model who is 100% dedicated to reducing weight, but when it comes to a working person, it is a clear reason of stress and disappointment.

It is simply not practical. Some people even lose their confidence just because they are following a wrong plan. Unfortunately, it applies to every area of life.

5 ways to transform your life from being stressful to being successful.

As I am in the personal development for 5 years now, I am in the process to understand how we can become successful. I am here with you on a journey to success.

I propose a new prospective to look at life and success if you really want to be successful because just the following someone or something without a clear understanding will not work. I guess you already had these experiences earlier in your life.

Be clear about what you want

If you do not know where you want to go, then you probably end up nowhere. It is important that you define what success means to you before you start chasing it.

For some, it simply money and for others, it is helping the world.  Know what you want. Take some time to figure it out. It might not come to your straight forward, but always try to be as clear as possible.

If you are not having fun doing something, it is not for you. I am not saying that you should not do anything which you are not enjoying. I want to say the core of your things must have fun.

Now, it is possible that you might have to do some other work to make it count. For example, a writer has to work not only on writing, but also in marketing, social media, and networking etc.

Fall in love with the process, not with the result

Have you ever enjoyed any achievement in your life for more than a couple of weeks? I know I haven’t. That’s because we are human and a human is a creature of progress.

Once you have the result you want, you start to find something else. And, if you don’t, life starts to become miserable. I am certain you have heard the story of movie star or footballer who just quit after achieving all the success they want.

It is important that you love what you do not what you achieve. The process makes it worth doing not the result. It is the process which changes you in a strong character.

First, develop right mind-set then right skill.

We are what we think. Our thoughts create our actions and our actions create our result.

When I say right mind-set, it means there are some aspect of success, you must accept. There is no such things as quick success. There is not easy success. You will fail. You have to work hard. You have to improve daily.

Most of all, you must understand that life is not about achieving. Life is about living it purposefully. Now, you purpose might be achieving that is fine, but always be clear that it is true.

With the right mind-set, you can face anything. No obstacle can stop you.

Appreciate what you have already achieved

Most of time us are busy chasing our dream that we forget to appreciate what we have already achieved.

When you do not appreciate the things in your life, you start to feel lack of it. It can be your money, loved one, respect, achievement etc. When you appreciate things, it starts to flourish.

You become more confident which makes you ready to do more. The more you do, the more you can do.

Never underestimate the power of gratitude. You can think it as a tool of manifestation. That’s how important it is when it comes to gratitude.

Make progress every day

You can plan. You can prepare. You can read all the books. You can dream of it every day. But, nothing will work, unless you do.

Most of the time, people are thinking a lot about doing that thing they should be doing, but they are afraid of taking action on it. But, the action is the only cure for that fear.

You must do something daily which can take you closer to your dream. If you want to be a writer, write. If you want to be a singer, sing. Take action, each day, every day.  

Take your time to figure out what life is for you. What gives you inner and true happiness? What life should be like? Figuring out these question is more important than achieving something no value to you at all.

The true success is hidden in the quality of your life. When you figure out your Why, How is easy.

 To your success.

Saurabh

 

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